How a Fear of Success Holds You Back

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As you discovered last time, fears are a major factor in blocking people’s success and goal achievement.  Under the major category of fear come two sub-categories: fear of success and fear of failure.  And while there are a lot of different types of fears (dozens if not hundreds) that can hold people back, many if not most of the most common fears fall under the above two categories.

So, as we start going through some of these common fears, I’d like you to really think about your own fears.  Because even on the surface if you’re afraid of one thing, deep down you may be afraid of success… or failure. Because these two major categories of fears are so common, we’ll look at them over the next several lessons. 

Let’s start with the fear of success…Fear of Success It almost seems unreal when you first hear about it: Fear of success.  How can that be?  How can a person who’s excited about a goal simultaneously be afraid to achieve it?

The answer is simple: The fear of success often boils down to a fear of change and a fear of the unknown.  You see, people intuitively know that if they achieve their dreams, their lives will change. The bigger the dream, the more change, they can expect

On the surface, this sounds great. For example, people who dream of writing a book and making millions of dollars with it may happily imagine all the benefits of fame and fortune. They daydream about what they’d do with all the money.  They think about appearing on talk shows and having raving fans at book signings.

But all of this is very different from a “normal,” quiet life.  It’s unknown. It’s a big change. And all of this can be quiet frightening.  Suddenly people are worried about things like:

  • Having relatives and friends asking for money.
  • Less privacy.
  • Being forced to be a role model for others.
  • Being under constant pressure to succeed and do great things

And so many more.

Another big one is being talked about in a negative way. For example, the aspiring author may hear his friends and family talk about other rich and successful people, saying things like “He’s such a blowhard and a show-off now that he got his book published.”  In turn, this aspiring author is afraid that if he becomes wealthy and successful, people will talk about him in a negative way behind his back, too.

NOTE: Generally, this sort of negative talk is used by people to rationalize why they don’t want to be rich and successful. Indeed, some people will even say as much. For example, they’ll say, “I’d never want to be rich because rich people are greedy, mean and evil.”  That’s an excuse (a poor, untrue one) for not getting rich, which in turn becomes a block to success.

All of this is tied to a fear of success.  The person needs to acknowledge this fear before being able to move past it.  If you recognize yourself in this lesson, congratulate yourself… because you’re one step closer to achieving all that you want.

Now stay tuned for the next lesson, where we’ll take a close look at one of the most common fears

What’s REALLY Holding You Back from Achieving Your Dreams?’

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If you haven’t achieved everything you want in life, then it’s quite possible that something is holding you back.  And before you can move forward, you need to find out what, exactly is holding you back. That’s what we’re going to start exploring, beginning with this lesson.  First, you’ll get an overview of the many possibilities. That is, you’ll learn about some of the more common reasons and factors that keep people frozen in place, not moving ahead.  In the coming lessons, we’ll then examine each of these factors in more depth. Finally, you’ll discover how to overcome these various reasons, fears, and other success-blocking factors. Let me start with a warning…You may glance down the list below and say to yourself, “none of this is relevant to me.”  This could be denial.  You may have such a deep-seated block in place that you may not even be aware of it!  That’s why I ask you to read this list and the coming lessons, even if you don’t think the lesson refers to you

What’s more, I’d like you to absorb this information with an open mind and without judgment.  That’s because if you start judging a certain factor as “silly” or “stupid,” then you may not want to admit that this factor is hindering you. And if you can acknowledge it, then you can’t move past it. So, read on with an open mind and attitude of overcoming whatever is holding you back.  Here then are some of the more common success blocks, reasons, and fears.  Keep in mind that these are large categories of factors and that you may be blocked by some or even all these factors:

Fear.  This is a big one. And that’s because it encompasses all sorts of fears, including fear of success, fear of failure, fear of stepping out of one’s comfort zone… and many more.  Because fears are so common – and very effective at holding people back – the next few lessons will examine fear.

Depression. This can range from having the normal “blues” to having clinical depression.  Because lack of motivation is a major symptom of clinical depression, it’s easy to see why depression can hold people back from achieving their goals

Bad health habits. This sounds simple, but poor health habits (such as eating the wrong foods and not getting enough sleep) can keep a person from achieving goals. That’s because poor health habits contribute to a lack of energy, lack of mental clarity and lack of focus, all of which are needed to achieve your goals

Getting burned out. If you try to take on too much, or if you’re leading a stressful life, you can simply burn out.  This lowers productivity, motivation and your overall enthusiasm for a project

Goals not important anymore. Sometimes you lose enthusiasm for a project, often because the goals just aren’t as important to you anymore.  You need to re-evaluate your goals to see if they truly aren’t important anymore… or if you’re just rationalizing so that you don’t feel guilty about not achieving your goals

Feeling overwhelmed. Finally, sometimes you have trouble moving forward simply because you feel completely overwhelmed. You’re not sure what step to take first.  You may not even be sure if you’re working on the right goal.  This may be a symptom of fear… or you could have just created a goal that was too ambitious. That doesn’t mean you need to scale it back, but you may need to set goals for smaller milestones.

That’s it for this time. Next time you’ll find out if fear is blocking your success.

Introduction to How to Increase your Productivity’

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Are you as successful, thin and happy as you want to be?

If you’re like most people I meet, the answer is “no.”  After all, there’s always room for improvement.  You have goals you want to meet and dreams you yearn to turn into reality. But maybe something is holding you back.  Have you ever made a goal, set a tentative deadline to reach it… and then the deadline arrived, and you were nowhere near achieving your goal?  Maybe you wanted to write a book, start a business, make more money, lose more weight

You started out with good intentions. You were enthusiastic.  And maybe you even initially took steps to achieve your goal. But suddenly you weren’t taking those steps anymore.  You rationalized why you weren’t taking them. And soon the goal was put on the back burner, unmet and out of mind

Sometimes when you look back on your unmet goals, you’re not even sure what went wrong.  Why did you lose your enthusiasm? Why was it so easy to get distracted and eventually completely derailed?  Was it fear, holding you back?  Or did a lack of productivity derail you?

 If any of this sounds familiar, then congratulations: You’ve made a great decision by joining Dynamic Productivity!

That’s because over the coming months we’re going to examine every single factor that’s holding you back and keeping you from living the life of your dreams.  Once your motivation and enthusiasm are running at 100%, then we’ll delve into the topic of productivity.  You’ll learn how to get more done in less time, which frees you up to focus on those things that are important to you!

Bottom line: You’re about to discover the secrets of achieving more in your life, getting more free time, enjoying more success in life and being the happiest you’ve ever been!

 Sound good? 

Your first lesson

Then first things first: Before we can jump into this talk of motivation and productivity, you need to choose a goal.  This is a topic we’ll cover in more detail in future lessons. But for now, you need to choose one goal to work towards.

This goal could be anything: writing a book, starting a business, losing weight, making more money… the choice is yours.  For the purposes of this course, we’ll focus on achievement and success. For your first goal, you may want to choose something related to those themes, as doing so will make these lessons really speak to you.

Now, some people have one overriding goal that they’ve thought about a lot over the last several months or even years.  If that sounds like you, then that’s probably the goal you should choose.

 Others, however, have several goals they’d like to achieve. The goals may seem roughly equal.  If this sounds like you, then here’s how to choose one goal…

 After you’ve finished this lesson, I’d like you to close your eyes and imagine yourself achieving the various goals that you have in mind.  Really imagine the moment.  Picture how you’ll feel when you meet your goal. Imagine what other people would say to you

>Now, there’s one goal that probably made you feel better and happier than any other goal.  Obviously, that’s the goal you should choose. Choose the one that has the most emotion attached to it

you do this little exercise and all the goals still feel roughly equal to you, then here’s what to do…

If you’re deciding between two goals, flip a coin.  If you have more than two goals, then write them down on little slips of paper, put the papers in a hat, and draw randomly to decide which goal to tackle first. Sometimes you’ll randomly draw one goal and feel disappointed.  If so, then you know that’s not the goal to start with… and once you know your true feelings, you can then make a better decision.  It’s a way to “trick” yourself into choosing the right goal!

 That’s it for this time. Next time you’ll find out the truth about what’s holding you back

Organisation System

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Many people do not worry about the organisation until it’s too late. They will let their papers, books and other items stack up on their desk and floors until it becomes virtually impossible to find anything. Then they need to spend hours if not days or even weeks being organised. In addition, the truth is, trying to organise a messy space just wastes time. It is much better to plan and implement your organisation system when you are first setting up your space.

Conventional wisdom says you should get a filing cabinet where you label folders and file your papers away inside these folders. If you’re comfortable with this sort of traditional organisation system, then yes… that’s what you should do. Just be sure to file everything away as soon as you’re done with it.

Some people don’t like the constraints of a file cabinet. If this sounds like you, then you need to create your own system. Perhaps you’d like to keep your resources on bookshelves, in boxes, or even in special piles on your desk or on your floor. The key is to make sure you’re comfortable with your system so that you’re motivated to use it. The second key is to create a system that doesn’t take over your office and clutter it up. Remember, your goal is to create a space that motivates and inspires you… not one that swallows you up with clutter.

Diffident from the seventies

In the seventies, I used pen and ink and once all the correction was finished, I took it to someone to Typewrite. Now life is a lot easier. I use a laptop, print it out and have it proofread and made the correction before having it printed.

Take Care

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Clive Harman, author of Shattered Dreams: The Story of My Life. Tragedy, love, comradeship and shattered dreams.  These are some of the elements that have made up the adventures and challenges of author Clive Harman’s life

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Engage Your Senses to be motivated and inspired

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When we talked about decorations and designs, we mainly focused on visual items such as carpet and paint colour, artwork and similar items. However, whenever possible you should seek to engage multiple senses… as long as you don’t find it distracting. If you don’t find it distracting, then these sorts of items may make you feel content and creative, both of which will boost your productivity and keep you both motivated and inspired.

Let me give you examples of ways you can engage your other senses (other than sight):

You can create a pleasant environment for your nose by using incense, scented candles, scented oils, automatic air fresheners and similar items. Several plants and flowers can also freshen a room. Open windows do wonders, especially if you have things like pine trees or lilac bushes right outside the windows. You may also spritz perfume or Febreze to freshen a room.

You can engage your sense of hearing by using items that create low, consistent sounds (almost like white noise). This includes items like indoor fountains or waterfalls. You can also use a noise machine or CD that a variety of sounds such as spring rain shower, ocean, rainforest sounds and similar.

You can include items in your space that are pleasing to your sense of touch, such as a soft couch, deep carpet and a comfortable office chair.

Organise and DeClutter

You already know that getting organised helps boost your productivity, motivated and inspired. Not only do some people prefer to work in a clean environment, but it’s also easier to do tasks when the resources you need are easy to find.

Next, you need to decorate your space in a way that keeps you motivated and inspired. Don’t let someone else in the household choose your decorations for you to decorate. You need to choose photos, paintings, sculptures, lamps and other lighting, plants, candles and other decorations that you like.

Don’t worry about whether it all “matches.” Don’t worry if you use decorations that aren’t serious to decorate the way you want to. For example, maybe lining up your Superman figurines on the window sill makes you smile. If so, do it! Your only concern should be, decorated to feel motivated and inspired as soon as you enter the room.

Take Care

Clive

Author of Fiction, Non-Fiction Books and step-by-step Lessons

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THE HITMAN They came for him. They missed him but killed his wife. He decided not to wait for them to come for him. To do what Special forces had taught him. Sometimes times the best form of defence is to attack. This was one of those cases. Yes, he would go after them.

Motivated and Inspired

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Before I share with you tips for designing a space that inspires you, let me tell you what the end goal is. Basically, you want to create a room that makes you feel happy, motivated and inspired the moment you walk into it.

Obviously, your personal preferences are going to dictate what you need to do to the room to make you feel happy to be in it. However, here are some ideas to get you brainstorming…

Make It Yours

You’ll notice I’ve used words like “stake out” and “claim” this space. That’s because you want to make sure that your space doesn’t get taken over by other people. And you also want to make sure that you don’t start using your space for other reasons.

For example:

  • Your family members decide to put a treadmill in your space. The next thing you know, you have someone running on the treadmill and talking to you when you’re trying to work and be motivated.
  • Your family members decide to use your space to work. This isn’t so bad, especially if you have a smaller home and you need to share office space. However, you don’t want someone to leave their papers on your desk, clutter up your computer bookmarks with their websites, etc. In other words, to stay motivated you should try to keep things separate if you have to share the space.
  • Your office becomes the guest bedroom. This isn’t a big deal if you only have overnight visitors a couple of times per year.

The point is, let others know how important this space is – and to be fair, be sure that your other household members have their own private spaces, too.

Paint it a Cheerful Colour

There’s a difference between painting and carpeting with colours you like and doing so with colours that make you feel motivated and inspired. For example, you might like the colour red. But if you make your room too red, it might be too intense. Perhaps painting just one accent wall would be a good solution.

TIP: You can test out different colours (before committing to a certain colour) by hanging coloured sheets on the walls. Then sit in your office to see how those colours affect you.

Take Care

Clive

Author of Fiction, Non-Fiction Books and step-by-step Lessons

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Clive Harman, author of Shattered Dreams: The Story of My Life. Tragedy, love, comradeship and shattered dreams.  These are some of the elements that have made up the adventures and challenges of author Clive Harman’s life.

Choosing an Environment that Inspires You

Claim a corner of a room and make it so that it inspires you. Again, you may need to use tall furniture and decorative dividers to stake out your corner. Ideally, this should be a corner that is not near a doorway that way; you will not have people walking by constantly.

Stake out a little-used room as long as you can make it inspires you. Do you have a room in your office that’s relatively quiet because it’s not used very often? For example, if there are just a couple of people living in your house and you only do laundry a couple of times per week, then you may consider using the laundry room as your office.

Use the dining room. Some homes have formal dining rooms that are rarely used. Generally, the family eats in the kitchen or breakfast nook, and the formal dining room sits unused (except for special occasions and holidays). If that’s the case with your dining room, then you may be able to use the table as your desk.

Check outside spaces. This doesn’t work if you live in an area with climate extremes. But if you live someplace where you can count on good weather for the majority of the year, you may want to create an outdoor “office” on your patio. You should have a backup plan of where and how you’ll work if the weather doesn’t permit you to be outdoors.

Again, the above are just suggestions to help you brainstorm ways to turn one part of your existing living space in your office. The key is to choose a place that makes you feel comfortable and it inspires you. For example, some people like the cosy feel of converting a large walk-in closet into an office. Other people feel claustrophobic and can’t stand the lack of windows.

Here’s the point…

You may stake out a place that seems perfect to you. For example, maybe you even have a small room that you can convert into an office. But if you don’t feel comfortable or you can’t make it so that it inspires you in there (for whatever reason), you’re going to be unproductive.

Maybe you’re a really social person, and you feel cut off from the rest of the family when you’re in that particular space. In that case, you may need to choose an office space that’s private… yet doesn’t make you feel quite isolated.

Now that you’ve selected a room or even just a corner of your home, your next step is to turn it into a place that inspires you.

Take Care

Clive

Author of Fiction, Non-Fiction Books

Clive Harman, author of Shattered Dreams: The Story of My Life. Tragedy, love, comradeship and shattered dreams.  These are some of the elements that have made up the adventures and challenges of author Clive Harman’s life.

Hello, Welcome to My Blog

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Introduction to Writing a Book

Although I had written Ten Training manuals and put together a lot of Notebooks on various subjects during my long training career I had never considered writing a book.

It came about when one day my daughter was asking me questions about my life before she was born and out of the blue, she asked me to write a book, for her, about my life.

It wasn’t easy and after several false starts, I decided to write a fiction book based on my own life, which I called Shattered Dreams-The Story of My Life. It took me nearly three years to complete the book.

Since I had it Printed many people have asked how I managed it and I started relaying odds bits and pieces to them. Once more my daughter said I should write a book of lessons on “How to write your book”.

This time, after thinking about it, I decided I wouldn’t write a book, but I would write posts on my blog so anyone can read it without costing them money.

It is important, no matter what you are doing is to plan and prepare, writing a book is no different. Try to work out how many hours you can spend a week. Draw up a timetable and allocate time to different activities like planning, reading, research, writing, even revising. You will not always be able to stick to any plan rigidly, but you should always work with one.

When I was writing my book and training manuals I always found a place that I was comfortable in and I could relax. Even better it inspired me as well. This could be anywhere from a table in the kitchen, or a bedroom come, study or even the local library. Just make sure you can let your imagination run freely.

Remember: A quiet atmosphere and a clear space [get rid of the non-related clutter] will keep your mind and thoughts on your work.

Take Care

Clive Harman, author of Shattered Dreams: The Story of My Life. Tragedy, love, comradeship and shattered dreams.  These are some of the elements that, have made up the adventures and challenges of author Clive Harman’s life.